What the Hell Do You Mean by Taking Your Girlfriend in Hand?

This may be the first question you ask yourself after reading my description, followed maybe by a quiet "Did she really have a whip or are you being metaphorical?"







No, she doesn't have a whip. Yeah, I know how disappointed a few of you are. Back to the google search engine for you.

Taking your partner in hand is another way of saying you're taking charge for the sake of your relationship. The whole each-partner-has-equal-say-and-power-thing is just not working out, for whatever reason. Your partner may get a little out of control the way women are capable of doing (now don't go all feminist on me because 1. I'm a girl, and 2. you're in denial) and rather than continue to argue and throw nasty words at each other, it would be more efficient to just say enough, make a decision, and then cuddle and have sex watch the sunset.







This is the goal.

What you're reading now is the process.

The process entails lots of testing and figuring things out and making mistakes trying to feel your way around the power shift. Do I want her to be a submissive, obedient, old-fashioned woman with no right to say what's on her mind?







No. I want her to be able to trust me and relax and be able to submit to me when things get out of control.

You see, my love has Borderline Personality Disorder. (this shit right here- http://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/topics/borderline-personality-disorder/index.shtml)

And what's worse than watching her go through one of her episodes, where she's lashing out at everyone who loves her and feeling such intense pain that she just doesn't know what to do with herself? Nothing. Except maybe watching and not being able to FUCKING DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT.

She's the kind of girl (you all know her- either a friend of yours, a girlfriend of yours, a MOTHER of yours, or maybe even yourself) who gets what she wants. She's manipulative and she knows it.

I've decided that things are changing- and you can choose to read (and laugh at) my successes (and many more failures) in rescuing my love from the dragon that lives inside of her and finally bringing her some peace.